Someone is Grieving the Loss of a Pet -
What Can I Do?

When someone experiences a tragic loss, they often reach out to their friends and family for sympathy, while others keep to themselves.

Knowing how to be a comfort and supportive during an emotional time

can often make a huge difference.

The key to comforting a friend who lost a pet is to be empathetic. Put yourself in their shoes, see their perspective and recognize their emotions.

1. Understand What They’re Going Through:

Grieving isn’t reserved for the loss of humans, and feeling emotionally vulnerable is natural when you lose a pet. Your friend needs to process their feelings. Sometimes the loss of a pet can be overwhelming.

2. Ask Them What They Need From You:
Instead of assuming what your friend wants, ask them what they need or how you can help. If you’re willing to lend a hand, it can relieve a bit of stress from their life.

What You Can Say
The best way to comfort someone dealing with the loss of a beloved pet is to console them in person.

Just validate their grieving and emotions.

In Person

“Nothing I say can make you feel better, but I’m here for you.”
“I know you loved them dearly.”
“They were part of your family.”
“If there is anything I can do, please let me know.”
“What can I do to help you?”
‘”They were lucky to have you.”
“No matter what, I’ll be by your side.”
“Please know I’ll be thinking of you.”
"I am so sorry your pet died."
"I know you will miss your pet."
"I know your house will seem empty without your sweet pet."
"I'm here for you if you need anything."

In a Card

“I’ve been thinking of you. How are you holding up?”
“I’m praying for you and your family.”
“I’m sorry for your loss. They will be missed.”
“They were lucky to have you as their owner and best friend.”
“Sending loving thoughts your way.”
“If you need to talk, I’m always here.”
“Wishing you peace and comfort during this difficult time.”
“Don’t hesitate to call me.”
“If you need to sit down and talk, let me know.”
“Losing a part of your family is never easy.”

Try not to send messages through text or email because it’s less personal. Sending a card or handwritten letter is more heartfelt and thoughtful.

Our pets never really leave us. They live on in memories of the love and devotion they gave us.

I know words do little to ease the pain you feel when such a lovely pet passes on. Keep the memories close to your heart and know that I’m keeping you in mine.

What Not to Do

It’s easy to feel uncomfortable when your friend is mourning the loss of their pet, but it’s important not to say the wrong thing. Don’t try to fix the problem, give them pep talks or offer advice. Let the process take its course and avoid using logic because it’s not comforting.

Guidance on what not to say:

Using euphemisms
Avoiding saying the pet’s name
Filling awkward silences
Telling them, “It will be okay.”
Saying, “It’s for the best,” or, “Think of all the great memories.”
Comparing their pain to another’s
Recommending they get another pet
Saying you understand how they feel because no one grieves the same way
Implying that time heals all wounds
Saying their pet is in a better place
Comparing their pet’s loss to your own experience
Imposing a timeline of feeling better
Becoming impatient if the person is still hurting after six days/weeks/months.

Supporting your friend after they lose their best fur friend is all about knowing their needs and being genuine.

5 things you can do to help:

1. Recognize their loss
2. Send something
3. See what they need
4. Memorialize the pet
5. Keep your friend social

Your favorite chair is empty now, where you would lie and sleep.
But the memory of our happy times is mine to always keep.

Someone is Grieving the Loss of a Pet - What Can I Do?

Someone is Grieving the Loss of a Pet -
What Can I Do?